Monday, April 30, 2007

Monday Monday...


How do I get outside?




April 29th - at the ballet - a very, very beautiful theatre






In between acts





Ivanna is getting more bold with her colouring and trying new hues






Looking through our album for the first time



So, it is my (Darren) turn to update you on our lives here. Where did we leave off? I think it was before supper yesterday. We had another nice supper of fried salami in tomato, pepper, and eggplant sauce with bread before heading off to the theatre by metro. We arrived there with only a couple of minutes to spare and quickly found our seats in a box on the second balcony overlooking the symphony. The show was comprised of two one-act ballets: one concerning a sultan, war-mongering, lovers, and mass-murder (as all good ballets do), the other starring a young man chasing true love, trying to fight against the cynical and hollow path of his father (and most others). Some of the dancing was quite spectacular, but really, I am much more moved by the music and musicians. It was almost enough to inspire me to pick up my trumpet again. There really is nothing like a live symphony in a beautiful theatre.
Afterwards, we headed back home to pick up the computer and then headed to Mario’s. Unfortunately, it was closed and we had to post from outside the front window (where we still had very good wi-fi reception). We should have taken a picture of the three of us huddled up on the step after 10pm, looking intently at the computer screen. Well, now we know: get to Mario’s before 9:30. Later at home, Jonathan read aloud the first few chapters of Prince Caspian. (S – he has instructed us to read a chapter a night of that and Voyage of the Dawn Treader, if we do so, by the time we are done both books, we should be home or nearly there – if we can’t limit ourselves to one chapter a day of CS Lewis).
Today, we got up around 7 when Tanis called. All a bit sad because of Jonathan imminent departure, we kind of dragged around. Jonathan read us another chapter of Prince Caspian and then we all headed out to the train station – one last chance for Jonathan to babysit us in getting train tickets (which Shona requested beautifully in Russian all by herself). After a short and teary goodbye, Jonathan headed off to shop a bit more and Shona and I got onto another overloaded train. We had thought that Saturday was an exception and that everyone heading out to their dachas would be gone by now. Not so. We got wedged into the doorway adjoining two of the cars and swayed along with the other sardines. (S – Really I thought there was no room for anyone else but the swaying mass was able to move at least 6 inches in each direction with the train – so probably a few more could technically have come on). For a few moments we were not sure how our exit would go (S – I was sure we were wedged there forever and starting to have a panic attack). We were pretty much welded to the steel door – the handle nearly a new addition to my sacrum. Thankfully, before the stop before ours, a few people started squeezing toward the exit. We just followed a woman who had been pushed up against me for much of the trip, and got ourselves squished up against the wall beside the exit by the time we left the stop before ours. At that stop a young woman and her young daughter (probably about 5) wedged on beside us. I felt bad for the little girl surrounded by bums, facing her mom who calmly spoke to her in low tones. I craned my face to smile at her and wave shortly before our exit and she smiled back. Maybe she’s used to that sort of thing. I remember the church foyer at Greystone when I was little, walking through a sea of legs, trying to find the right pants to which to cling. That was one thing, but I don’t think I would have dealt well with a packed train, if I weren’t tall enough to see over most people. (S – On a happy shoe note, I have decided that maybe my feet can tolerate the crazy pointy-spiky high heeled shoes that women wear all the time here after all, as I spent much of the 45 minute trip on my tippy-toes and my feet survived).
When we got to the orphanage, we again tried to call Slava to have her ask the person at the desk to get Ivanna for us. The phone didn’t work – it seems we need to buy more credits in order to make calls (I think we can still receive calls though). So, we muddled through and eventually got someone to call Tatianna (the head nurse in charge of adoptions). It worked out and a caregiver soon brought Ivanna down to us. Through a combination of signs and words, she told us that Ivanna should not go outside today because of her cough and cold (which did seem a bit more productive today – what is the world record for snot production in a 2 year old?). We tried to go up to the playroom but it was locked, so we ended up hanging around in the foyer of the orphanage, which does not really hold much fun for a little girl who really wants to go outside. Shona and I did our best to entertain her with pictures, markers, bubbles (thankfully, we bought some yesterday), food, drink, and the window (which she tried to walk right through in her desperation to go out). But by 11:20, Ivanna was done with our distractions and starting to fuss a bit. So, rather than stoically push through to the time limit, we took her back upstairs and said a pleasant good-bye. I think my favourite moment in our time together today was when Ivanna pointed to a picture of me and said “Dada”. Yes, that feels really good.
Afterwards we headed home on a much less crowded train (although we did not get seats until near Kyiv) and had a brief sort-of (considering his lack of English and our lack of Ukrainian/Russian) conversation with a nice gentleman about us being Canadian and ‘tourista’. We had shawarma, a few tears (well, one of us did) in seeing Jonathan’s note and special treats (ice cream, his favorite chocolate bar, cookies and herbs/spices – we’ve been cooking without so far) he left for us at the apartment (it is amazing how 400 sq ft can feel too big and just a bit less homey now), and a nap, and then did a little yoga. We are now going to Mario’s for supper and possibly a little shopping.
S - Jonathan, we are going to try to continue to go out and about and not just mope in our apartment – we just may not be out and about quite as much as when you were with us. Yes, we are feeling a little down (the silence in our little place is hard - Jonathan was always making some kind of noise!!:) But looking at the pictures of our darling girl, we know we can do this for her – even if it’s hard at times.
Paka for now.

11 comments:

kathryn said...

Hi Darren.
I'm sorry Jonathan has gone home, less noise and less comfort. It sounds though that you made it through the day on your own - well done Shona with your ticket request. (M - sorry about the train pain... NEver good). That's a good idea about the read aloud, at the end you'll be home- You might frame it in the end.
Tanis, MIsha and Samuel left yesterday after a bug hunting, fun-filled weekend at the farm. Misha was over the moon, he got to drive the tractor on his own. Big doin's at the ranch! Samuel slept through the horses eating out the kids' hands as well as most of the tractor fun. We will try to send some pics of their adventures once we figure out how to use our computer.
We love you lots, (you've even made Mark an addict to your blog).
ooooo
Mark and Kath

Melissa said...

I'm so glad that Jonathan was able to spend that time with you. I'm sure you'll be great navigating. It's so great to read about and see pics of Ivanna. It's a blessing to have Mario's and other familiars nearby.

Alan, Michelle and Cole said...

Hey guys,
I'm so sorry you are missing Jonathan. We are so thankful he could be with you for as long as he was. I'm so proud of how you guys are doing (ticket requests, transportation and the rest). Hang in there! It's not easy being away from familiar surroundings so we will continue to pray for your comfort and that the time will pass quickly. We are praying that your court date comes very soon. We miss you and just absolutely love reading the blog and seeing the beautiful pictures you so graciously are sending us. My eyes are continually filled with tears as I hear of you connecting with your daughter. My friends, we love you and are thanking God every day that Ivanna is now apart of your family. Lots of Love.

jaggiest said...

First things first: I very rarely burst out laughing when reading something, but I actually laughed out loud at "the handle nearly a new addition to my sacrum."

Great to hear that you guys had a good time watching Face/Off and Sideways in ballet form. I also enjoyed the image of 3 musketeers performing wireless signal theft on a dark street--maybe you should take up raiding! :)

Darren, I think some of the best things about being with my kids are the "firsts" (and they don't have to be first-in-the-world, or first-for-the-child, just first-with-YOU) that you get to see. Yesterday, (and I hope I'll be excused for writing about our adventures, but hey, I'd like you guys to be connected to what's going on over here too) Will was being quite a pill and generally moaning and making a fuss for a few hours. Val and I both misted up, however, when the little dude managed to take a few steps between us with no hands! :) Yes, it's been done before, and in fact billions of first steps have been taken in the last twenty years alone; but to us it was pretty special. The wonderful thing about this is you have a lifetime of firsts to share with Ivanna, and "Dada" is pretty special. (Either that, or she thinks your name is "YesYes." wink)

As for the absence of Jonathan: He truly is a blessing. (Webster's dictionary defines "blessing" as "something promoting or contributing to happiness, well-being, or prosperity; a boon."--ignore that, the rest of you, this is a medium in-joke about semi-unique essay entries from Grade 10 English) Where was I? Jonathan the blessing. What I was going to say before my paranthetical addiction (I love asides) took hold was that I think part of Jonathan's strength is really to leave a part of himself with people.
There are two ways of shoring up a shaky stone wall. The first is to lean into it and hold it up with one's hands. This serves to keep the wall from falling down while he is there, but as soon as the leaner leaves, the wall is just as weak as ever, and soon crumbles in his absence.
The second way is to add mortar between the stones, to permanently bond together and strengthen the wall. When the mortarer is finished and leaves, the wall is stronger for his efforts and stands on its own. Jonathan has been your mason, and now you are ready to face the rest of your challenges.

Take care of each other! We'll call you soon. We love you very much and know you will do well. Try to eat somewhere other than Mario's and the kavkalesh (mmm... crab juice) vendor! You may find some amazing things out there!

Love, Jason

Tanis said...

Hi you two,
Thanks for sharing all that you did. I'm sorry that the three of us just can't join you with Jonathan. Next time. I'm glad to hear that you got through your day without Jonathan and that you've got some treats and books to tide you over until you're home.

How wonderful to hear Ivanna say 'Dada'. As you said, these are the moments that will keep you going.

I love you both. We will continue to call lots.

Tanis (Misha and Sam)

Christy said...

You guys are able to really beautifully capture your experience - it's a neat blessing for those of us watching from afar.

You continue to find your way into our thoughts and minds and prayers. I was out biking this morning and asking God to keep his hand on every part of your journey ahead and complete it even sooner than we all expect!

C&C

Neil and Lib said...

Thanks for your wonderfully descriptive account of the past couple of days. Knowing the two of you as well as we do, you'll do just fine on your own, even without Jonathan. Of course you might not get as many cooked salami meals but even our gourmet chef of a son would be challenged to make something really delicious out of what I remember in Moscow! Thanks too for the pictures! This contact makes us feel as if we're ALMOST experiencing things along with you, and it is such joy.
We love you,
mom and dad

carrie c said...

You have brought all of us along on your journey with the stories and memories you have shared. Thank you for including all of us in these precious, tender encounters with your daughter. We will keep you in our prayers as you adjust to Jonathan coming home and the language barriers - we know you will do fine.

Grandpa Steve said...

I think this adventure is becoming a part of people's everyday lives now. Note more details from the commentors lives. I think this adds richness for the 2, oops 3, of you. You are now truly on the path of establishing your family.

May God continue to grace and bless you.

The Cricket said...

It seems like just yesterday that you two were in the store picking up your last minute items prior to your departure, and how so much has happened since that day.

We're all watching back here and wishing for nothing but the very best for the two of you! Your little girl is beautiful and we all can't wait to meet her!

- Tyler & Scott

Sam and Evelyn said...

Enjoyed your descriptions of the up close and personal train rides! It's these little details that are making this journey feel like we are all there with you (tho' heaven knows how the train could tolerate any more squeezed in). We are also so glad that you are able to see Ivanna even tho' it is a holiday time. We are enjoying hearing about the little details of your encounters with her (how much snot can an almost 2 yr old produce). (Why a parent always has some tissues tucked away somewhere!!!)
With love for all of you,